These weeks (end of May, beginning to mid of June) has been kinda strange for me – I haven’t gotten any work to do yet many of my works were missed. It’s like, you have a job to do but you just don’t know it (it’s really NOT proactive).

And to clean up the mess – I had to receive complaints from my team and then write a loooong e-mail (to my client) at nearly 1 am after knowing that the problem didn’t come from the mistake I think it is – it came from another mistake.

Confused of my sentence? Yes I do realize it doesn’t make sense. So the chronology is:

  1. I don’t realize that I have works to do – by not following up an activity
  2. When I realize it it is too late (some activities in my project must be delayed because of my mistake, I think)
  3. I receive a complaint from my team
  4. I try to make things better (by contacting my client)
  5. It turns out that the problem is “me and my client an probably my team is not on the same page” – my client thinks the activity must be started next week
  6. I realize that my main mistake was not “not follow up” – it’s “not confirm something immediately when you think the other way around”. Now it become problem. Huh.
Fyuh. Yep that’s work.
Another update… I got cold last week and a bad cough coming along this week, but I’m better now. Haha luckily, my money didn’t go to the general practitioner on that disappointing hospital near my house. Yay. My money went to another medical specialist instead, but I hope it worth the money. No? No. Money I spend to doctor is not an investment -_-” It is a punishment from not having (medical) insurance. That’s why I promised to write about medical insurance here… During nearly a year when I don’t have medical insurance anymore (I graduated, turned 21, plus my father moved abroad) I have visited the hospital three times and paid by myself – even though for the last two visit I receive money from my parents after I gave them my bank account (I insisted not to give them my bank account because if I give them it’s likely that they will give me every time they thought I need it. However I gave them when my mom asked me to buy an airline ticket for her) and jokingly said that I accept donations after my mom asked me how much did it cost.
Another update? Got some exciting materials from work and now exploring on it. Phew. It’s like, my main job was forgotten and my side job (yes, that exciting material) took the place. -___-” Sometimes I hate that I love my job very much that when my uncle asked me what did I do outside my job I had nothing to say. In my free time I study (the ones that correlates to my job ((=). One of the example is that certification (which I still have no idea what it’s for. Prove myself that I can, maybe?) some posts ago.
Enough said. There’s still much to learn to.
P.S. I believe that experience is the best teacher, but at the point you know you repeat the same mistake you know that experience is not the best teacher. Experience and “willingness to do better” is. What’s the point of experience (of having a mistake, therefore you know the effect and you won’t do it again) if you repeat (it, i.e. that SAME mistake)? The thought crossed my mind somewhere on my numbered list up there before I knew that my main mistake was not that same mistake; it was another. Yet it didn’t remove the fact that I did the same mistake and received the same consequences.

Well I posted this pie charts several days ago and promised to write my opinion on this. I got a few responses ranging from someone questioning “Are fathers avoiding their family” to an opinion that fathers feel more responsible to make their family a living.

Up to a point, I agree to the second one. On many cultures and society, fathers are viewed as someone who make money for their families’ sake. This may explain why fathers spend more of their time at the office, assuming that more time at the office equals to working harder, which make them to bring more money home in the end.

About whether or not fathers avoiding their family, there is also a possibility of that. But, in my humblest opinion, gentlemen will never do that – running from a problem never help.

Regardless of the reason why fathers work longer than childless men, it is my belief that fathers should be with their children more often. Pardon me if I am too traditional, but families must consist of father, mother, and children. Having only mothers at home won’t make children grow up as they should be. Fathers are not superfluous at home; at least I found opinions, backed up by studies, that support my view.

On the Room for Debate “What Are Fathers For?” page on The New York Times, W. Bradford Wilcox, the director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia and the author of “Gender and Parenthood: Biological and Social Scientific Perspective”, wrote that the likeliness of successfully progressing boys and girls, on average, is contributed by their father’s time, attention, discipline, and especially affection. He mentioned two parameters for boys and girls to show how dads matters for children; for boys, it’s that “boys raised apart from their fathers were two to three times more likely to end up in jail before they turned 30” as a Princeton study mentioned and that “girls whose fathers disappeared before the girls turned 6 were about five times more likely to end up pregnant as teenagers than were their peers raised with their fathers in the home”, based on another study. To be more general, the article said that children, especially boys, are more likely to get out of trouble and to be successful in school when they have fathers who mind their homework and school conduct.

“Family is where it all start”, old society said. It would seem that the quotation is true; all in all, despite the obligation of the fathers to bring livelihood to the table, they ought to remember that their children need them.

So – yesterday I jumped to an article posted on my LinkedIn home (probably, I don’t really remember where it came from) and yes, the article caught my attention. It is titled “Why Men Work So Many Hours” and you can read the original here.

The pie charts above show the data from 2011 American Community Survey captured by US Census Bureau. Divided by gender and whether or not the respondent have children, the graph depicts people aged 25-44 who work more than 50 hours per week.
Overall men work in longer hours at the office, with 29% for fathers who live with their children and 21% for men who have no children. A smaller number of percentage is found at women; those who have children and live with them only contribute 9% to the chart, while women who have no children account for 14%, a greater extent than mothers living with their children. For men, according to the chart, having children means that they should work longer in the office. Conversely, for women, a tendency of spending less time at work is found at mothers who live with their children.
In general, the data shows that men work longer than women in the office and that having children means longer hours at work for men and fewer hours for women – at least for year 2011.

So. next post will be about my opinion about this 😐