Well I posted this pie charts several days ago and promised to write my opinion on this. I got a few responses ranging from someone questioning “Are fathers avoiding their family” to an opinion that fathers feel more responsible to make their family a living.
Up to a point, I agree to the second one. On many cultures and society, fathers are viewed as someone who make money for their families’ sake. This may explain why fathers spend more of their time at the office, assuming that more time at the office equals to working harder, which make them to bring more money home in the end.
About whether or not fathers avoiding their family, there is also a possibility of that. But, in my humblest opinion, gentlemen will never do that – running from a problem never help.
Regardless of the reason why fathers work longer than childless men, it is my belief that fathers should be with their children more often. Pardon me if I am too traditional, but families must consist of father, mother, and children. Having only mothers at home won’t make children grow up as they should be. Fathers are not superfluous at home; at least I found opinions, backed up by studies, that support my view.
On the Room for Debate “What Are Fathers For?” page on The New York Times, W. Bradford Wilcox, the director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia and the author of “Gender and Parenthood: Biological and Social Scientific Perspective”, wrote that the likeliness of successfully progressing boys and girls, on average, is contributed by their father’s time, attention, discipline, and especially affection. He mentioned two parameters for boys and girls to show how dads matters for children; for boys, it’s that “boys raised apart from their fathers were two to three times more likely to end up in jail before they turned 30” as a Princeton study mentioned and that “girls whose fathers disappeared before the girls turned 6 were about five times more likely to end up pregnant as teenagers than were their peers raised with their fathers in the home”, based on another study. To be more general, the article said that children, especially boys, are more likely to get out of trouble and to be successful in school when they have fathers who mind their homework and school conduct.
“Family is where it all start”, old society said. It would seem that the quotation is true; all in all, despite the obligation of the fathers to bring livelihood to the table, they ought to remember that their children need them.